5 things I wish I knew at 18 (with gifs!)

1- The job market is so much harder then you think.

Most jobs you see you’re either going to be grossly overqualified or under-qualified. Only go to college if you have a clear path where that degree will take you. Focus on learning as much as you can and do things that will help your future.

2- Not everyone you meet is going to be as kind as you.

Not everyone will be the kind of friend you are. Don’t waste your energy with those people. Surround yourself with people who care about you through the good and the bad. Find people who understand you or at least empathize with you. Appreciate your loved ones and the ones who take care of you.

3- Take care of yourself first.

Mentally, physically, emotionally, socially, financially or intellectually. Don’t put someone else in front of your own care. Take care of your body and your mind. Be active as often as you can. Eat in moderation but still enjoy what you like! Always put yourself first. You can’t help others if you’re sick or drained.

4- It’s okay to struggle.

It’s okay to ask for help. Just make sure you’re going to the right people (see #2) Make sure you periodically have time to vent and let things out. Cry if you need to. Take a sick day if you need to. Keep the communication open with your supporters. They can’t help you if they don’t know.

5- DONT BE SO HARD ON YOURSELF!!!

Be yourself. Don’t try to fit into society’s mold of what’s expected. Don’t do things that don’t contribute to your wellbeing or happiness. Continue to be gentle with yourself. Understand that you can’t always be perfect. Accept that you are the only version of you there is and don’t try to be someone else.

I hope this helps someone who reads this. It helped me to write it! Stay strong out there my friends ❤️

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5 things I learned working at an all women’s studio

things i’ve learned from training an all women’s studio
1- not every woman’s purpose is to lose weight. everyone assumes women workout is to lose weight right? wrong. there are so many other benefits to working out. Some ladies want to increase their strength so they can put up their own holiday decorations or carry all the groceries, some ladies want that rush of endorphins to help start/end their day, some ladies want that satisfaction of a hard sweat, some ladies want to increase their muscle mass to avoid osteoporosis and other health problems and some ladies just want to work out because they enjoy it! Any & all of these reasons are great reasons to workout, it doesn’t need to be for the purpose of changing your body. 


2- you have to appreciate how you are now, while working towards your goals. some of my favorite clients are the older ladies because they help me understand how to appreciate life. they tell me about what’s really important and how to enjoy life! so many women spend so much time wishing and wanting to change themselves- in reality it’s better to accept the way we are while working towards bettering ourselves. definitely easier said than done, but it’s something i’ve really tried to start implementing in my own life. it’s so much better to appreciate your body and all it does for you then to hate it and try to force it to change. 


3- there is a disconnect between correct, educational information and the general public. I can’t tell you how many times i’ve heard ladies say “well i don’t want to get bulky” or “i just need to do more cardio” NO NO NO! lifting heavier IS the most ideal because it recruits more muscle fiber, builds more muscles which leads to more calories burned AT REST! Example- If client A is 130lbs and 25% body fat and client B is 130lbs but 35% body fat. Client A burns more calories then client B just by possessing more muscle mass i.e. client A can eat MORE throughout the day and do LESS activity. Building more muscle is the best way to increase your daily caloric intake.


4- People really don’t understand nutrition. Although I am in no way a dietitian or nutritionist, I have had my fair share of experience with nutrition and have learned a lot from personal experience. I can largely say that most clients I come across do not understand basic nutrition especially how to utilize it when strength training. I cannot give nutritional coaching legally (personal trainers are NOT certified for nutrition) but I can say if you don’t understand how to properly fuel your body consulting a registered dietician is the best way to make sure you’re eating properly for your body and activity needs.


5- YOU CANNOT JUDGE SOMEONE’S FITNESS LEVEL BY THEIR BODY!!! the way someone looks is not correlated to their physical ability. we all hopefully learned very early on not to judge someone by how they appear but this principle is even more important with fitness. aesthetics is just one of the many categories of fitness. some ladies are super cardio conditioned, some ladies are badass at lifting heavier weights, some ladies have the endurance to bang out tons of reps, some ladies have awesome balance skills, some have amazing flexibility, but ALL the ladies are there to get healthier- to better themselves, to better their lives, to better their health as a whole. 


Just remember all bodies are made to move and enjoy life! 

xoxo mvkayy 

social media & body image

with my new found love for fitness, it seems as every new follower I get is soandsofit or fitnessjourneyofblank so naturally my feed & discovery page is filled with beautiful, muscular, toned bodies. Dozens of comparison pictures, girls who claimed to have changed their life & loved every part of the process. by no means am I not happy about people getting fit and becoming healthy, but at what point is seeing all these body obsessed posts stop being inspiring & start hurting? 


I tell myself not to compare my journey to theirs but it’s hard, secretly I am comparing my progress to everyone. but that’s the thing about social media, it’s all about perspective

I noticed myself obsessing over others so I unfollowed a lot of these people. not because they aren’t great people (I’m sure they are) but because following them is  not benefitting me.


 I started following more body positive accounts. I love fitness and competiting but not in a way where I have to constantly be showing it to everyone. some of my goals for the next few months are to focus less on my physical appearance and work hard to appreciate the relationships in my life. I want to spend more time enjoying life and not worrying what I look like or how I appear to others. I know after my next competition I will be putting on weight (being this lean is not sustainable in a healthy way) and I am trying to mentally prepare myself for the changes in my body. Filling my life with body positivity and self love are my priority right now. I hope you all can do the same! – xoxo mvkayy

Aside

social media

when I decided to start my journey to the stage I was extremely hesitant to put it on social media. I actually didn’t announce it publicly to any outlet until after the show and even then I didn’t say where I placed/ranked. why? because that’s not what mattered. I didn’t want people to focus on that. I wasn’t doing it for attention, and I’m still not. this fitness and health journey has always been about me and bettering myself not only physically but mentally 
 
with social media being so present in our lives nowadays, I have always been afraid to overshare on my platforms. I had originally created a separate Instagram for my fitness posts. when my competition finally came around I decided to give that up and focus on sharing my journey as my normal self and not be concerned what others are thinking of it. and I can honestly say the support I’ve been receiving is AMAZING! that’s part of the reason I started this blog. I feel so lucky to have all these people love and support me. 
There are still days when I feel self conscious about posting certain pictures or statuses, regardless if they are about health & wellness or anything else but what I’m beginning to realize is I need to embrace the social media age! there is so much love out there and people who truly appreciate what you have to share. as a millennial, we can be labeled as narcissist, the age of selfies & snapchats is among us but I’m choosing to embrace the self love. it’s making me more confident & a happier person. so thank all of you who are supporting me & I encourage you all to share more & not be afraid! like RuPaul says best “if you can’t love yourself, how the hell you gonna love anyone else?” 


xoxo mvkayy!