5 things I wish I knew at 18 (with gifs!)

1- The job market is so much harder then you think.

Most jobs you see you’re either going to be grossly overqualified or under-qualified. Only go to college if you have a clear path where that degree will take you. Focus on learning as much as you can and do things that will help your future.

2- Not everyone you meet is going to be as kind as you.

Not everyone will be the kind of friend you are. Don’t waste your energy with those people. Surround yourself with people who care about you through the good and the bad. Find people who understand you or at least empathize with you. Appreciate your loved ones and the ones who take care of you.

3- Take care of yourself first.

Mentally, physically, emotionally, socially, financially or intellectually. Don’t put someone else in front of your own care. Take care of your body and your mind. Be active as often as you can. Eat in moderation but still enjoy what you like! Always put yourself first. You can’t help others if you’re sick or drained.

4- It’s okay to struggle.

It’s okay to ask for help. Just make sure you’re going to the right people (see #2) Make sure you periodically have time to vent and let things out. Cry if you need to. Take a sick day if you need to. Keep the communication open with your supporters. They can’t help you if they don’t know.

5- DONT BE SO HARD ON YOURSELF!!!

Be yourself. Don’t try to fit into society’s mold of what’s expected. Don’t do things that don’t contribute to your wellbeing or happiness. Continue to be gentle with yourself. Understand that you can’t always be perfect. Accept that you are the only version of you there is and don’t try to be someone else.

I hope this helps someone who reads this. It helped me to write it! Stay strong out there my friends ❤️

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competition rant

so as many of you know I recently competed in some bodybuilding bikini competitions. I chose not to share this until after the competition was over & I can say I’m so glad I waited to share because wow.

I have been approached either in person or online by numerous people wanting advice/guidance on how to achieve my lean look. but here’s the thing, even I don’t look like the girl on the stage 24/7. yes I put in months of training & nutrition. yes I lost a ton of body fat and gained lean muscle but still, no one looks stage lean in person. unless you’re planning on competing you shouldn’t even strive for that look. the tan, the lighting, the make up, the heels, the suit, the dehydration, the sodium depletion and a few other components PLUS the training and diet are what gets girls that crazy hot body. but guess what? when it’s over everyone’s body adjusts different and you can & should put on weight. while it sucks seeing the post show bloat and loss of extreme leanness I have to remind myself it’s okay to not look like that all the time. in fact it’s HEALTHY to not look like that.


what sucks lately is that most people who are not involved in this kind of sport don’t really understand this. while I’ve had a lot of support I’ve also had some people give me some hate on not “matching the photos”. so please, be kind to anyone you see no matter what their fitness journey is. you never know how vulnerable of a state they are in. stay positive & lift heavy!


xoxo mvkay 😘