5 things I wish I knew at 18 (with gifs!)

1- The job market is so much harder then you think.

Most jobs you see you’re either going to be grossly overqualified or under-qualified. Only go to college if you have a clear path where that degree will take you. Focus on learning as much as you can and do things that will help your future.

2- Not everyone you meet is going to be as kind as you.

Not everyone will be the kind of friend you are. Don’t waste your energy with those people. Surround yourself with people who care about you through the good and the bad. Find people who understand you or at least empathize with you. Appreciate your loved ones and the ones who take care of you.

3- Take care of yourself first.

Mentally, physically, emotionally, socially, financially or intellectually. Don’t put someone else in front of your own care. Take care of your body and your mind. Be active as often as you can. Eat in moderation but still enjoy what you like! Always put yourself first. You can’t help others if you’re sick or drained.

4- It’s okay to struggle.

It’s okay to ask for help. Just make sure you’re going to the right people (see #2) Make sure you periodically have time to vent and let things out. Cry if you need to. Take a sick day if you need to. Keep the communication open with your supporters. They can’t help you if they don’t know.

5- DONT BE SO HARD ON YOURSELF!!!

Be yourself. Don’t try to fit into society’s mold of what’s expected. Don’t do things that don’t contribute to your wellbeing or happiness. Continue to be gentle with yourself. Understand that you can’t always be perfect. Accept that you are the only version of you there is and don’t try to be someone else.

I hope this helps someone who reads this. It helped me to write it! Stay strong out there my friends ❤️

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losing weight 

as a personal trainer, the majority of my clients come to me with goals to lose weight. they see it as an end all be all goal. “oh if I lose this 20pounds I’ll finally be happy and confident and my life will be great!” and while losing weight is sometimes necessary required for some people in order to become healthy and avoid medical issues, losing weight is not the end all be all of everything. 
losing weight will not make you happy

losing weight will not give you real friendships

losing weight will not give you fun memories

losing weight will not make the important things in your life any better then it already is 
in fact, sometimes losing weight can become mentally and emotionally unhealthy. Especially in women it can become obsessive…


I hear it all the time from girls “I have to go to the gym” “I have to do 1 hour of cardio everyday” “I have to stop eating carbs” 
what we HAVE to do, is start loving our bodies!!! we need to exercise for fun and to get our bodies moving, not for the sole purpose of burning calories and changing our physique. life is about more than being a lean bean muscular skeleton. life is about more than steps racked up on your Fitbit. life is about more than how many calories your elliptical session burned. life is about more than how you looked in that one bikini picture on Facebook taken at just the wrong angle. while I’m all for working out and conditioning your body, what I’m more concerned about is the lack of body positivity in the fitness community. instead everyone is so quick to compare to each other but NO BODY is the same! learn to embrace your body for everything it does for you. do activities because you like them, if you burn more calories doing Zumba but you’d rather go to yoga, GO to yoga! fuel your body and your mind. make fitness positive for you and it won’t feel like a chore. 

xoxo mvkayy 💗