5 things I wish I knew at 18 (with gifs!)

1- The job market is so much harder then you think.

Most jobs you see you’re either going to be grossly overqualified or under-qualified. Only go to college if you have a clear path where that degree will take you. Focus on learning as much as you can and do things that will help your future.

2- Not everyone you meet is going to be as kind as you.

Not everyone will be the kind of friend you are. Don’t waste your energy with those people. Surround yourself with people who care about you through the good and the bad. Find people who understand you or at least empathize with you. Appreciate your loved ones and the ones who take care of you.

3- Take care of yourself first.

Mentally, physically, emotionally, socially, financially or intellectually. Don’t put someone else in front of your own care. Take care of your body and your mind. Be active as often as you can. Eat in moderation but still enjoy what you like! Always put yourself first. You can’t help others if you’re sick or drained.

4- It’s okay to struggle.

It’s okay to ask for help. Just make sure you’re going to the right people (see #2) Make sure you periodically have time to vent and let things out. Cry if you need to. Take a sick day if you need to. Keep the communication open with your supporters. They can’t help you if they don’t know.

5- DONT BE SO HARD ON YOURSELF!!!

Be yourself. Don’t try to fit into society’s mold of what’s expected. Don’t do things that don’t contribute to your wellbeing or happiness. Continue to be gentle with yourself. Understand that you can’t always be perfect. Accept that you are the only version of you there is and don’t try to be someone else.

I hope this helps someone who reads this. It helped me to write it! Stay strong out there my friends ❤️

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social media & body image

with my new found love for fitness, it seems as every new follower I get is soandsofit or fitnessjourneyofblank so naturally my feed & discovery page is filled with beautiful, muscular, toned bodies. Dozens of comparison pictures, girls who claimed to have changed their life & loved every part of the process. by no means am I not happy about people getting fit and becoming healthy, but at what point is seeing all these body obsessed posts stop being inspiring & start hurting? 


I tell myself not to compare my journey to theirs but it’s hard, secretly I am comparing my progress to everyone. but that’s the thing about social media, it’s all about perspective

I noticed myself obsessing over others so I unfollowed a lot of these people. not because they aren’t great people (I’m sure they are) but because following them is  not benefitting me.


 I started following more body positive accounts. I love fitness and competiting but not in a way where I have to constantly be showing it to everyone. some of my goals for the next few months are to focus less on my physical appearance and work hard to appreciate the relationships in my life. I want to spend more time enjoying life and not worrying what I look like or how I appear to others. I know after my next competition I will be putting on weight (being this lean is not sustainable in a healthy way) and I am trying to mentally prepare myself for the changes in my body. Filling my life with body positivity and self love are my priority right now. I hope you all can do the same! – xoxo mvkayy