5 things I learned working at an all women’s studio

things i’ve learned from training an all women’s studio
1- not every woman’s purpose is to lose weight. everyone assumes women workout is to lose weight right? wrong. there are so many other benefits to working out. Some ladies want to increase their strength so they can put up their own holiday decorations or carry all the groceries, some ladies want that rush of endorphins to help start/end their day, some ladies want that satisfaction of a hard sweat, some ladies want to increase their muscle mass to avoid osteoporosis and other health problems and some ladies just want to work out because they enjoy it! Any & all of these reasons are great reasons to workout, it doesn’t need to be for the purpose of changing your body. 


2- you have to appreciate how you are now, while working towards your goals. some of my favorite clients are the older ladies because they help me understand how to appreciate life. they tell me about what’s really important and how to enjoy life! so many women spend so much time wishing and wanting to change themselves- in reality it’s better to accept the way we are while working towards bettering ourselves. definitely easier said than done, but it’s something i’ve really tried to start implementing in my own life. it’s so much better to appreciate your body and all it does for you then to hate it and try to force it to change. 


3- there is a disconnect between correct, educational information and the general public. I can’t tell you how many times i’ve heard ladies say “well i don’t want to get bulky” or “i just need to do more cardio” NO NO NO! lifting heavier IS the most ideal because it recruits more muscle fiber, builds more muscles which leads to more calories burned AT REST! Example- If client A is 130lbs and 25% body fat and client B is 130lbs but 35% body fat. Client A burns more calories then client B just by possessing more muscle mass i.e. client A can eat MORE throughout the day and do LESS activity. Building more muscle is the best way to increase your daily caloric intake.


4- People really don’t understand nutrition. Although I am in no way a dietitian or nutritionist, I have had my fair share of experience with nutrition and have learned a lot from personal experience. I can largely say that most clients I come across do not understand basic nutrition especially how to utilize it when strength training. I cannot give nutritional coaching legally (personal trainers are NOT certified for nutrition) but I can say if you don’t understand how to properly fuel your body consulting a registered dietician is the best way to make sure you’re eating properly for your body and activity needs.


5- YOU CANNOT JUDGE SOMEONE’S FITNESS LEVEL BY THEIR BODY!!! the way someone looks is not correlated to their physical ability. we all hopefully learned very early on not to judge someone by how they appear but this principle is even more important with fitness. aesthetics is just one of the many categories of fitness. some ladies are super cardio conditioned, some ladies are badass at lifting heavier weights, some ladies have the endurance to bang out tons of reps, some ladies have awesome balance skills, some have amazing flexibility, but ALL the ladies are there to get healthier- to better themselves, to better their lives, to better their health as a whole. 


Just remember all bodies are made to move and enjoy life! 

xoxo mvkayy 

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body changes rant 

So first off let me say I’m happy and super grateful for everyone who has been commenting on how great I look and how amazing my body looks….. but honestly it makes me nervous for when my body starts to show more weight gain. 

even though that will be completely normal and healthy for me I’m afraid many people won’t understand that. every time I take a picture, put on a bikini or even just wear fitted clothing I feel so self conscious. I’m nervous people are going to compare me to my stage pictures/lean physique and think I “let myself go” or “lost my willpower” but in reality, gaining weight and eating more freely these past two weeks has actually been extremely mentally stressful. waking up everyday to see my body and the scale changing has been really messing with my head.

I just have to keep reminding myself that there are so many more important things than my weight/body. I’m getting to join in on more social activities and my mood is improving. each day is different and some are harder than others. my anxiety sometimes feels suffocating but I have to try to embrace myself because I know the alternative of trying to change myself will just end up in more body negative thoughts and self destructive actions. it’s a process and all I can do is take it day by day. 


-mvkayy 

losing weight 

as a personal trainer, the majority of my clients come to me with goals to lose weight. they see it as an end all be all goal. “oh if I lose this 20pounds I’ll finally be happy and confident and my life will be great!” and while losing weight is sometimes necessary required for some people in order to become healthy and avoid medical issues, losing weight is not the end all be all of everything. 
losing weight will not make you happy

losing weight will not give you real friendships

losing weight will not give you fun memories

losing weight will not make the important things in your life any better then it already is 
in fact, sometimes losing weight can become mentally and emotionally unhealthy. Especially in women it can become obsessive…


I hear it all the time from girls “I have to go to the gym” “I have to do 1 hour of cardio everyday” “I have to stop eating carbs” 
what we HAVE to do, is start loving our bodies!!! we need to exercise for fun and to get our bodies moving, not for the sole purpose of burning calories and changing our physique. life is about more than being a lean bean muscular skeleton. life is about more than steps racked up on your Fitbit. life is about more than how many calories your elliptical session burned. life is about more than how you looked in that one bikini picture on Facebook taken at just the wrong angle. while I’m all for working out and conditioning your body, what I’m more concerned about is the lack of body positivity in the fitness community. instead everyone is so quick to compare to each other but NO BODY is the same! learn to embrace your body for everything it does for you. do activities because you like them, if you burn more calories doing Zumba but you’d rather go to yoga, GO to yoga! fuel your body and your mind. make fitness positive for you and it won’t feel like a chore. 

xoxo mvkayy 💗

social media & body image

with my new found love for fitness, it seems as every new follower I get is soandsofit or fitnessjourneyofblank so naturally my feed & discovery page is filled with beautiful, muscular, toned bodies. Dozens of comparison pictures, girls who claimed to have changed their life & loved every part of the process. by no means am I not happy about people getting fit and becoming healthy, but at what point is seeing all these body obsessed posts stop being inspiring & start hurting? 


I tell myself not to compare my journey to theirs but it’s hard, secretly I am comparing my progress to everyone. but that’s the thing about social media, it’s all about perspective

I noticed myself obsessing over others so I unfollowed a lot of these people. not because they aren’t great people (I’m sure they are) but because following them is  not benefitting me.


 I started following more body positive accounts. I love fitness and competiting but not in a way where I have to constantly be showing it to everyone. some of my goals for the next few months are to focus less on my physical appearance and work hard to appreciate the relationships in my life. I want to spend more time enjoying life and not worrying what I look like or how I appear to others. I know after my next competition I will be putting on weight (being this lean is not sustainable in a healthy way) and I am trying to mentally prepare myself for the changes in my body. Filling my life with body positivity and self love are my priority right now. I hope you all can do the same! – xoxo mvkayy

competition rant

so as many of you know I recently competed in some bodybuilding bikini competitions. I chose not to share this until after the competition was over & I can say I’m so glad I waited to share because wow.

I have been approached either in person or online by numerous people wanting advice/guidance on how to achieve my lean look. but here’s the thing, even I don’t look like the girl on the stage 24/7. yes I put in months of training & nutrition. yes I lost a ton of body fat and gained lean muscle but still, no one looks stage lean in person. unless you’re planning on competing you shouldn’t even strive for that look. the tan, the lighting, the make up, the heels, the suit, the dehydration, the sodium depletion and a few other components PLUS the training and diet are what gets girls that crazy hot body. but guess what? when it’s over everyone’s body adjusts different and you can & should put on weight. while it sucks seeing the post show bloat and loss of extreme leanness I have to remind myself it’s okay to not look like that all the time. in fact it’s HEALTHY to not look like that.


what sucks lately is that most people who are not involved in this kind of sport don’t really understand this. while I’ve had a lot of support I’ve also had some people give me some hate on not “matching the photos”. so please, be kind to anyone you see no matter what their fitness journey is. you never know how vulnerable of a state they are in. stay positive & lift heavy!


xoxo mvkay 😘